By Alessandra Alonso.  We are frequently asked on our 'Ask the Expert ' section how to make mentoring relationships somehow more effective; how to maintain momentum and how to keep the mentee  engaged and interested.  Like most relationships, a mentoring rapport needs to be nurtured and developed. As a mentor, there is a lot you can do to revive the relationship, even though the relationship is, in principle, owned and driven by the mentee. How often do you check which progress has been made on objectives? It could be that most things the mentee set out to achieve have been  achieved or indeed that the objectives have changed. A 'reality check' every 2 sessions or so would be most appropriate. A simple question at the end of each session such as 'Has this session been useful for you?' would also give you an idea of how you are doing... Secondly, are you supplementing the mentoring conversation with stimulating material or new contacts? Bringing different perspectives on an issue may broaden the mind and thinking of your mentee.  Thirdly, are you challenging enough? Some mentors don't challenge their mentee enough for fear of coming across too pushy yet,  many mentees enjoy being pushed outside their comfort zone.  This is perhaps something you could discuss with your mentee to ensure you are on the same wavelength. Finally the relationship may have come to a natural end in which case you need to acknowledge it and perhaps suggest that your mentee looks for another mentor.  Constructive discussion and feedback will ensure there is learning on both side, whatever the outcome.

If you are involved  in a mentoring programme do take a look at our forthcoming workshop taking place on the 25th March 2010 'How to Design and Implement a Successful Mentoring Programme.